How to get the Respect I deserve?

I show love and respect for myself when I honor my need to have some time to myself, when I make time to pursue my hobbies and interests, and when I take steps to achieve my dreams and goals. I show that I value my needs when I make time to keep contact with friends and family members. When I set appropriate boundaries and refuse to be physically, verbally, or emotionally abused by others, I am practicing self-respect.

I am also are loving and respectful of myself when I stop my negative self-talk and become aware of the words and tone I used when I talk to myself.

When I respect myself, my attitude and expectations will be conveyed to other people in my life. This will affect the quality of my interactions.Only by respecting myself will I compel others to respect me.

My thoughts about this topic is that 'Respect is Earn and Not Given'. Therefore, if I want people to respect me, I have to respect myself first.

Rugby, Anyone??

None in my family tree every played rugby. The same thing goes to my other half. But of all the people in our family, Alistair plays rugby!! And he had been playing rugby since he was in primary 5. Can you believe that? I think his daddy almost had a stroke when he found out that his only son is very active in rugby. Initially, we pleaded him not to continue playing rubgy simply because to our understanding rugby is such a violent and agressive game that requires heavily body contact. But to Alistair, he just keep his ear close and pretend as if we are okay with it.

The reason being why we are against it initially was because Alistair is not a big built up person but rather quite a skinny young man (by the way he is only 14 years old). I am so worried that everytime he pplayed rugby, he would break his bones. Oh yaa!! indeed his right collar bone was fractured last year (year 2008) during one his practises. Still, it did not dampened his spirit to continue playing. He only rested about 6 months then after that there he goes playing for the school again.

After an exaustive and unsuccessful talking to him, we give up. Instead, we started to follow him to his rugby tournament and after watching the game for some time, I realised that it was not too bad after all. What is requires is a good practising and knowledge of the game. Yep.. Alistair is one of those young boy being given the opportunity to learn rugby in his school and I think he was being groomed then onward. No wonder, everytime there is tournament, all the rugby coaches will look for Alistair coz they know that he plays well.

Recently, we follow Alistair and his team (St. Michael school) to Sandakan for the IJM Rugby Tournament. We stayed there for the whole 3 days to watch them play. Am so proud of the team coz they play so well and got 2nd placing outbeating the every popular la salle boys, the MRSM, also the sabah college and also the Teknik kenignau boys.

At the end of the day, rugby is just one of the game and if it is done properly, I believe Alistair will be fine. I guess, we just need to put our utmost trust in him though as parents the fear is always there. But we know that he love this game very much therefore, we will support him throughout!

My only thought about this game is that it will inculcate some form of learning not only the skill but also the disciplining, patience and tolerance to Alistair. He will require a lot of understanding of this game in order for him to play well especially when a lot of body contact happening. My only hope is that Alistair will continually improve his skill and at same time do well academically.

Megan's 1st Holy Communion

Poor me. I must be very lazy to the extent that the last time I wrote in my blog was in June 2009. It's not a very good habit. I will try to keep up with my writing.

But for today, I would like to share the happy moment of my beloved daughter Sarah Megan's receiving her 1st holy communion at Church of Mary Immaculate, Bukit Padang on the 25 October 2009. I was indeed very proud of her. When I see her in her beautiful white dress and veil receiving her 1st holy communion, I just could not stop my tears from falling. She is my pride and joy.

She is such a happy go lucky person that enjoy life very much. And infact, this is what I would want my children to be. Enjoy life.. don't grow too fast. Learn all the skills that are available. Infact, she also had her black belt karate this year. what else can she do? Yep.. She can roller skate very well. Not even her brother can beat her in this skill. She even pester me to look for bigger space for her so that she can really do the roller skating with hurdles.And guest what? She is only 11years old.

It is my thought and hope that Megan would continue to enjoy her life as time goes by and never let anything to stop her from moving forward.

The Hunters...

Yep. That's us, my 3 dear friends and me while preparing for the DBKK Treasure Hunt held somewhere in the month of Feb 2009. This is our 2nd consecutive year participating in this Treasure Hunt. Not that we have won any prizes last year, but what we gain throughout the journey was fantastic. It's alright that we didn't get any prizes though. What matter most is that we really enjoyed ourself, we are full of fun, laughter and joy. To have fun, we must be in the circle of right friends. Me the driver, Winnie the navigator, Rachel & Erica our strong runners. We spent almost 2/3 of our day in my beautiful hyundai car rushing here and there trying our best to solve the treasure hunts questionnaires. Nevertheless, we complete the race on time but still have no luck this year. Never mind, we still have next year right?

Any improvement? I realise that my driving skill has really improved and am ready for the 'Formula One Racing Competition!!

When Humphrey, our pet dog died..

Humphrey,our pet dog has become part of the family for the past few years. Infact, Megan has become so attached to him that at times I am worried should something happen to him, I wonder how would Megan react?

As times goes by, Humphrey become more and more brilliant. Previously, he use to snap anybody's shoes, slippers & sneakers and rip it off till you can't even recognise it. As he matures, he learned how to be more choosy. Last few months, he only choose newly bought shoes, sneakers or slippers. But the worst thing happen.. was when Humphrey rip off the 'the bos' newly bought Aladin look alide sneaker and boy was my hubby gone really really mad!! He could only utter the word 'ready to be cook'. For the next few days, Megan really have to cover for Humphrey till her dad cool off.

Yep.. that is Humphrey, very naughty but fill our day with his funny sound and action. His normal day would be stay in his room (cage) during the day and out for working (taking care the house) during night time. His time to go out would be around 5.00pm, and that would be the time, when Megan bring him along with her for her daily rollerbladding (around the housing area). If nobody bothers to let him out, then his barking become more louder and louder.

But all those happenings remain a history coz Humphrey our pet dog has died misterously early last month. I could not believe it when our maid inform us that something had happened to Humphrey maybe during mid night time, coz she found his body lying unconsciously near our gate. I cried for a while and my thoughts start to roam around, how am I gonna inform Megan? At that time, Megan was still preparing herself for school. I went up slowly but still crying and she ask me, what's wrong mummy? I told her that something has happened to Humphrey and that he is very sick but she could not believe me and said that humphrey was fine last night. Still, she is not satisfied, so, she went down and call for Humphrey. For a while, I just keep quiet and just wait for her reaction. I peep outside the door, and saw her touching and holding Humphrey. She stayed there with humphrey for a while and went up to her room. She didn't cry at first. Only after she close her room's door, then only I can hear her crying. I feel so sad. I know she felt the lost of Humphrey.. coz I can feel the pain too. We all love Humphrey very much especially Megan. Until todate, we don't know what actually causes Humphrey's misterious death but whatever it is we know that Humphrey's memories remain with us forever. Even now, Megan still mention about Humphrey and has stop doing her rollerbladding. When I ask her why, all she can tell me is that she has no more friend to accompany her.

My only hope is that Megan would get over the lost and that one day she will get another puppy..to accompany her.