What's so wrong by telling the truth? Is it a sin to be direct? Can we be jailed for being openly expressive? I really do not understand our Asian culture that we are not supposed to be too agressive and too direct when comes to expressing our state of mind. Then, if that is the case, how are we gonna tell the other party the truth? Are we gonna go round and round the bush before telling the truth. Isn't it wasting our time? I know.. majority of our people likes to be commended, likes to hear nice things, and only wish to hear good things about themselves. But what if it is the other way round?
Ye.. common advise I received is that to tone down my style of expression, but then to what extent? What is the level of 'tone' are we talking about here? Perhaps, we need to add more sugar, sweets, etc.. till the actual fact is no more there. Yuck!! hello!! am not that type. No matter how I try, I can't! I think if I do,I will end up vomitting.
My thoughts about this issue is that people could not accept the truth because sometimes truth can hurt. But are we gonna just sweep the problem under the carpet and hope that it will slowly fade away with the dusts? I really pity those people who cannot accept critism. I guess they will be forever living in fairy tales. What a hypocrite! My only hope is that one day more people will be more than willing to learn how to accept the truth, no matter how painful it is.
What matter most is that the critic is given in good faith.
Wednesday, December 10, 2008
Tuesday, December 2, 2008
When Megan missed her brother very much..
Mummy, I miss Abang! Says Megan. We were on our way back home from my mum house. She just finished talking to her brother using her HP. I can see her wiping her tears slowly, trying to avoid me from knowing that she has shed tears. I can understand her feelings. Her brother Alistair is now in Tambunan spending his holiday with the grandparents.
Being just the two of them, Alistair the eldest and Megan the youngest, I know how closed they are to each other. But what I don't understand is that when they are together, they can't see eye to eye. Most of the time, they argue even over a small petty things. They like to call funny names of each other and its difficult for them to sit together except when watching their favorite movie. Guess they have no choice but to bear with each other coz there is only one television available in the living room.
So, I asked Megan, why are you feeling so sad? She keep on saying, I miss abang very much and he would only be back home this sunday. That would be another 4 days from now. Its too long mummy! Then I told her, why don't you call abang and ask him to go home early. I can't do that mummy. Abang may thought I am the one forcing him to go home. Then I said again, what's wrong with telling abang that you miss him.
She sat quietly for a while, pick up the phone and call her abang. I was sitting not far from her, and try to listen to their conversation. Wow.. what a change! She first ask her abang whether he miss her. And perhaps the abang said that he miss her too that I can hear her saying I miss you too abang. please come home early. And again, the tears fall down from her eyes..
I can understand the closeness of my two children in their own peculiar way. I remember during our younger times, when we were not even allowed to ask questions, let alone express our feelings. Those were the days. Come my time when I have my own children, I encourage them to speak up their mind. And sure they did, in fact they are very very good when comes to speaking their opinion. Megan for sure, will give me plenty of reasons, ideas, opinion of any issue that she likes to talk about. That according to her daddy, remind him of the daughter's mother!
Coming back to Megan, I ask why the tears? Wiping it slowly, she said, 'I want abang to be near me'. I guess, being the eldest, Alistair is very protective of his sister. And Megan the mischievious one, will try all means to disturb her brother. They have their own style of bonding the brother sister relationship, though sometimes, I just could not understand.
My thoughts about my children is despite of their differences, one thing for sure, nothing can divide their bonding. My only hope is that they will be able to learn to accept each other as they are and be there for each other.
Megan is now counting the days when the abang will be home so that she could disturb him again. What a girl!! Now I know.. why she feel sad, becoz she felt lonely at home without the abang around. She got nobody to tease, disturb, call names and even bullied his abang.That's my daughter Megan.
Being just the two of them, Alistair the eldest and Megan the youngest, I know how closed they are to each other. But what I don't understand is that when they are together, they can't see eye to eye. Most of the time, they argue even over a small petty things. They like to call funny names of each other and its difficult for them to sit together except when watching their favorite movie. Guess they have no choice but to bear with each other coz there is only one television available in the living room.
So, I asked Megan, why are you feeling so sad? She keep on saying, I miss abang very much and he would only be back home this sunday. That would be another 4 days from now. Its too long mummy! Then I told her, why don't you call abang and ask him to go home early. I can't do that mummy. Abang may thought I am the one forcing him to go home. Then I said again, what's wrong with telling abang that you miss him.
She sat quietly for a while, pick up the phone and call her abang. I was sitting not far from her, and try to listen to their conversation. Wow.. what a change! She first ask her abang whether he miss her. And perhaps the abang said that he miss her too that I can hear her saying I miss you too abang. please come home early. And again, the tears fall down from her eyes..
I can understand the closeness of my two children in their own peculiar way. I remember during our younger times, when we were not even allowed to ask questions, let alone express our feelings. Those were the days. Come my time when I have my own children, I encourage them to speak up their mind. And sure they did, in fact they are very very good when comes to speaking their opinion. Megan for sure, will give me plenty of reasons, ideas, opinion of any issue that she likes to talk about. That according to her daddy, remind him of the daughter's mother!
Coming back to Megan, I ask why the tears? Wiping it slowly, she said, 'I want abang to be near me'. I guess, being the eldest, Alistair is very protective of his sister. And Megan the mischievious one, will try all means to disturb her brother. They have their own style of bonding the brother sister relationship, though sometimes, I just could not understand.
My thoughts about my children is despite of their differences, one thing for sure, nothing can divide their bonding. My only hope is that they will be able to learn to accept each other as they are and be there for each other.
Megan is now counting the days when the abang will be home so that she could disturb him again. What a girl!! Now I know.. why she feel sad, becoz she felt lonely at home without the abang around. She got nobody to tease, disturb, call names and even bullied his abang.That's my daughter Megan.
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