Embracing Imperfection..

A Sharing I got from the internet, I hope I could emulate and embraced as I continue the journey..

EMBRACING IMPERFECTION
When I was a little girl, I could remember, my mom making breakfast and dinner for us.
And I remember one night in particular, when she had made dinner after a long, hard day at work.
On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of vegetables, salad and burned chappati in front of my dad.
I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed'
Yet all my dad did was, to reach for his chappati, smile at mom and ask me how my day was at school.
I don't remember what I told him that night, but, I do remember watching him smear chatani on that chappati and eat every bite?

When I got up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad
For burning the chapati.
And I'll never forget what he said.
Baby, I love burnt chapati.
Later that night, I went to kiss daddy good night and I asked him if he really liked his chapati burnt.
He wrapped me in his arms and said
Dear , your momma put in a hard day at work today and she's real tired, And besides, a little burnt chappati never hurt anyone .
You know life is full of imperfect things and imperfect people.

I am not the best housekeeper or cook.
What I'v learnt over the years
Is that learning to accept each other's faults
And choosing to celebrate each other's difference
Is one of the most important keys
for creating a healthy growing
And lasting relationship.
And that's my prayer for you today,
that you will learn to take
The good, the bad, and the ugly parts of your life
And lay them at the feet of God
Because in the end,
He's the only One who will be able
To give you a relationship
Where burnt chappati isn't a deal-breaker"
We could extend this to any relationship, in fact .
As understanding is the base of any
relationship ,
Be it a husband - wife or parent - child or even with friends.

Don't put the key to your happiness in
someone else's pocket, but, into your own.

My thoughts and hope is that I will continue to accept others imperfection, failures and differences, to embrace it as part and parcel of life..

We're Gonna Hunt Again!!

Yep.. come 28 Feb 2010, our 3rd consecutive year joining the DBKK Treasure Hunt. Did we won last year or the previous year? Nope.. we didn't but we gain experience of what treasure hunt meant. I am very excited to participate again this year. Not because that I expect to win (but who knows, my team could win something this time). I am expecting that adventure again.. I have enjoyed it very much and I believe my friends comprising of Erica, Winnie and Doreen would think same. I enjoyed the driving around, the excitement of searching for clues and the above all, the high spirit and confidence of getting the answers to the trivia eventhough later on we found out that the answer was no way near. Yuck!!! Anyway, it is important that we must have the right team members who has the same 'gila-gila' coz everybody gonna spent time together inside the car the whole day. Can you imagine if you have someone in the team who just don't click with the rest.

My thought and hope for this year is that my team will improve our placing and who knows (am keeping the hope) that we could win something!! Keep my finger cross..Most important we gonna enjoy the hunting.. Go..Go .. SCC Ladies Hunters!

True friends remain forever..

last monday evening, I had the opportunity to meet my friends whom we have known since way back when we were in primary one (year 1973).. Wow.. that was about 38 years ago.. Though we are staying not far from each other but due to work commitment, family, career, everyone went to their own ways...not realising that its been years already that we have not really met and sit down together. How time flies so fast.. I think the last we all had our happy moment was in year 1983 (form 5). After that everyone went to diferent path.. some get married earlier and some later (including me)..
But that monday night.. was the so good.. we had the time to rekindle our childhood memories fill with laughter and joy. How we realised that we were those naughty young girls try to disturb other people and how this 'other people' turn to be somebody..
My only thought is that our friendship wil remain forever eventhough we now have grown up children of our own. I hope that we will continue to find time to spend together till our last breath..True Friends remain Forever..

I am a Poor Communicator!!

Why is it so difficult to communicate? To be silent means a good communication? I am a poor communicator. I am too engrossed with getting my ways, forgetting that there are other people surrounding me. I am overly demanding. I always say not to expect so much from others but actually I am. It is only lips sevice. It is not right and I have to get away from this foolish act before things get out of hand. I am good at saying things but I have to be honest that I am so poor in delivering it. I expect changes but the only person that requires change is ME...

I change my Hairstyle.. The Organic way??

One of my resolution this year is to do something with my hairstyle. Been keeping it straight and long without curls or even coloring for quite sometime. But then, I got bored with it. So, I asked my hairstylist friend Mimie whether I could change my hairstyle. Her usual reply is so encouraging, boleh bah klu ko!! Ok then.. today noon.. off I drove to her saloon and did some half perming called 'organic way'. Why organic? Because the lotion they proposed me to used are made of organic stuff??? I think. Was it really organic? I don't know actually. Alas.. my long straight hair got curls.. But too bad, I cannot do my favorite blow set yet... I have to wait for 4more days to let the lotion sip through.. Never mind, I can wait! Bottom line, I permed my hair. Off goes one of my resolution..


Ok.. the hair style is almost like this picture except that I am not the person. Just giving some idea how's my new hair style should look like after few days..

My only thought and hope is that my hair will not be ruined by this so called 'organic lotion' that cost me almost RM200.00 (What an investment!) and up my spirit even higher

I am Thankful

Got this quote from the book of Lectio Divina, Feb 2010, It says..

I am thankful that I don't already have everything I desire,
If I did, what would there be to look forward to?

I am thankful when I don't know something
For ti gives me the opportunity to learn.

I am thankful for the difficult times.
During those times, I grow.

I am thankful for my dark nights,
For God is there in the most profound level.


I am thankful for my limitations,
Because they give me opportunities for improvement.

I am thankful for each new challenge,
Because it build my strength and character.

I am thankful for my mistakes,
It taught me valuable lessons.

I am thankful when I am tired and weary,
Because it means that I have a difference.

It is easy to be thankful for the good things
A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are also thankful for the setbacks.

Gratitude can turn a negative into a positive. My only thoughts and hope is that I would continue to find a way to be thankful for my troubles so that they can become my blessing, that I will not easily forget my root, the hardship that I have gone through to be where I am now, that what I have at the moment is just temporary, I am only passing through

Why I still like to see movie at the cinema

Despite that we have this so called DVD player with its best sound system, or even the ASTRA (now the HD) with many channels that I can't see them all, I still prefer to go to the cinema and watch my favorite movie. And glad too that my family enjoys same hobby and whenever there is good movie coming to the cinema, my children will start nagging us to book the ticket in advance. Movies that really fascinate me and make really appreciate the modern technologies are movie like 2012, Avatar, Twilight, Legion, etc. These movies are fantastic, really attract my attention and give me hope that cinema will not fade away despite of the emergence of movie provider at home.

Watching movies also one of of our family bonding where everyone enjoyed going to the cinema including my dear hubby. Though sometimes he could not understand the movie like Twilight-New Moon, but still he did his best to watch the movie. Also watching the movie encourages discussion about the movie among my children which actually is good for them. At least, am glad that they do have something in common unlike the teasing and arguing most of the time.
My thought and hope that there will be continuous great movies available so that my family and I will have something to do together.

True Friends Remain Through Thick and Thin...

Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow.
Don't walk behind me, I may not lead.
Just walk beside me and be my friend

Thank you for your friendship. It's hard to find true friends nowadays. Though there may be time we disagree over certain matters, but we remain friends. I am not a perfect person. I can be overly demanding.. perfectionist sometimes and very very meticulous. Nevertheless, you stood by my attitude.. and for that I thank you for keeping up with me.. and I will do same to you, my friends..

My thought and hope that you would remain to be my true friend through thick and thin...

Am I being Paranoid?

I guess all parents would experienced what I am experiencing nowadays. My two children are growing up too fast. They become more and more demanding for spaces. I wish that they are still small so that it would be easier to control and monitor their movement. But now, they have their own circle of friends, own activities and interest. I am beginning to worry for nothing. I think I am using this words 'don't do that, don't do this' many times and am worried that as time goes by they will get bored and do not listen to me anymore. Where do I draw the line? Should I just keep quiet and let them go freely or should I restricted more. I just can't figure it out. Am worried again.. that one day they may just stop listening to me. I think I am overly protective of them and therefore their spaces becoming smaller for them to breathe.

My thought is that my children will try to understand that I am just trying to do what is best for them, but I guess it is overly done. My only hope is that I could learn to slowly let go as they expand their wing.

Alistair Patrick

My Handsome Son.. Alistair
Born on the 5 April 1995. Very tall for his aged, 15 years old. Infact taller than his daddy. A quiet boy, likes to read a lot too. Love to play rugby (don't know where he got the idea, none in the family plays rugby), ever represent MRSM (U12) Rugby tournament at Kuala Kangsar in year 2007, like futsal and football too, have small circle of friends, play organ well (Gred 3), left handed like me, also got an LG HP (courtesy from his ever generous daddy), give 1 answer for 1 question, like to play video during the weekend, love to watch movie with the family, prefer to wait and see, ask question only when necessary, loves to eat pizza a lot.

My thought and only hope for you my beloved son,.. that may you grow up into a nice looking man, smart, intelligent and independent too'.

Sarah Megan Patrick

My one and only princess... Sarah Megan Patrick,
Born on the 20th May 1998. Got her black belt karate in year 2009, Love to do rollerskating, likes to swim, Gred 2 Organ player(moving up to Gred 3), A Track Runner for her school, likes to read a lot, likes to listen to music, own a LG HP (courtesy of her usually generous daddy), likes to bully her only 'abang', the only one in the family that could understand 'Nike' her dog, has thick long black hair (she definitely got it from me), tall and slimmer for a 12 years old girl (yes.. she got my height too..) and many more interesting part about her that I love to observe as time goes by.. Able to express herself well, not afraid to ask question and can give all sort of answers for a just 1 question from me, the mother. Queries a lot and very intuitive too.. Naughty most of the time and knows how to enjoy herself.. Very very demanding too.. and would not take 'No' for an answer.

My thought and only hope for you dear dear Megan.. is that may you grow up into a beautiful, intelligent and independent lady..

What I intend to do this year..

Goodbye & Farewell Year 2009.. I had a lot of good and not so good memories to cherish.Things that I dread most after waiting for almost 11 years happened .. I have signed the NRS. I took over the President chair of KSR for 2 term (2009-2010). I KIV my futsal for a while but continued my line dancing. I lost weight.. hooray.. yes I did.. I lost about 3 Kg. But I still have to loose another 3 Kg. I acted in our Passion Group drama of the year, the Queen of Nenetnuya (its CM idea)during our PRIDE camp. I painted my beautiful hyundai matrix car with 'crystal pearl blueish green' that cost my other half about RM3,700.00 TQ my darling hubby for sharing your BIG bonus with me..Good Bye.. 2009

Hello Year 2010..
What I intend to do? Yes.. Intend is the right word. I will not used the conventional word 'resolution' because it sounds so not original. I will note down what I intend to do this year.. Here goes..
1. I intend to change my routine.. Use different route, change my hairstyle (again..),
2. I intend to eat better.. Yes.. I must, I have no choice. Age is catching up. Less oil, more wheat food, more fruits, more vegetables..
3. I intend to have real conversation. Really? Have I not been conversing before? Okay, perhaps, I need to sit down more and really get into meaning conversation.
4. I intend to De-clutter often. Anything.. dress, shoes, heels, handbags, mails (yuck.. I hate this), unwanted files, etc, etc.. etc
5. I intend to do more Exercise. Okay, I am currently doing the jazzexercise but only about 20 minutes, 3X a week. So, perhaps, need to add another 10 mins. Yes.. I must revive my Futsal. Where are my team? We got BIG Tournament this year. Lets start practising again. We got court every wednesday.. I will definitely continue my line dancing. I love dancing, so this will add to my exercise listing.
6. I intend to listen more. Not that I have not been listening but I guess it is not sufficient. Importantly, I must listen more to my children and not just nag them, and put a full stop to their queries. Ok Alistair & Megan, remind mummy to talk less and listen more.
7. I intend to have more fun. I will! I will live my life to the fullest as if there is no tommorrow.
8. I intend to enjoy every journey that I took, including my drive to the office since I will be using a different route. I should reduce my mph driving so that I have the time look at what is in my left and right side of the road.
9. I intend to read more. Oh my dear, I still have few more books which I bought last year and did not manage even to open and read it.
10. I intend to do another stress relief, something new. But I still enjoy going for relaxing body massage(at least once a week), I go for window shopping or hairwash. Maybe, this year, I will do more writing either in this blog, or somebody's blog.
11. I intend to be more involved in the charity work. Yes, this is important to me becoz it will remind me of my root and will keep my foot intake.

I think that's about it what I intend to do this year. My thought is that for this year I will embrace any hurdles and challenges with an open heart. My only hope is that throughout the journey, it will give me the opportunity to improve myself emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually.